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Daunted by Dirty Talk? A Shy Guy’s Guide.

Written on 15th March 2018   By   in sex advice

Someone once said that a picture is worth a thousand words, but clearly that person lived before the time of dick pics and sexting.

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Despite tech-driven innovations in wooing, one shouldn’t underestimate the ancient art of aural sex in which we use our words and imagination to paint a picture that cannot be captured in an image. While dirty talk may be just using our words, something we do every day, it can be one of those nuanced things where it can be absolutely perfect or it can fall flat and sound like the record skipped.

Some people shy away from dirty talk because they don’t even know where to begin. They’ve seen bad movies with bad one-liners and can still feel the sting of the character’s epic verbal fail. They don’t want to feel silly and embarrassed. Fear not! With a little guidance, you can be talking dirty with the rest of them. Much like sex with a new partner, you can bring all of your past knowledge to the table, but you’ll probably have to make adjustments for what works best for your partner. It’s all part of the process. Whether you are deep in the throes, waiting in the grocery line together, or across the country connected by your screens, this art of verbal seduction can send your or your partner’s heart racing.

There is something to be said about a great back and forth of sexual mental tennis.

Now I don’t suggest you employ your foul-mouthed skills just anywhere. There is a time and place for this. It isn’t advisable to suddenly launch into a dirty diatribe with someone you don’t already know, so make sure this would be a welcomed addition to your relationship.

If you find yourself separated from your partner, you can employ these skills over text to arouse and build anticipation with your partner. It’s also great if you’re feeling a little nervous about doing this in person. Starting off with something simple like:

“I can’t wait to play with you tonight.”

“Work is really difficult for me today. I keep thinking about what we did last night.”

“I just got out of the shower, and I wish you were here right now.”

These fairly tame phrases can be the gateway to opening up the conversation into something more explicit. Bonus points if you can incorporate multiple senses.

“I love how wet you get for me. I want to taste you.”

“I want to feel your warm, wet pussy on this cock.”

‘I want to hear you say my name while I’m in you.”

Get creative with it. The key is to make sure the phrases are well-timed and flow with your conversation. There is something to be said about a great back and forth of sexual mental tennis. It’s also necessary to make sure that your communication comes off as authentic. If you’re not a profanity user or your partner doesn’t welcome that kind of language, don’t feel like you have to use it. Play within both of your comfort zones and, most importantly, have fun.

Even if you’ve mastered digital conversation, when it comes time to do it IRL, some people can feel a little trepidation on how to initiate the verbal play. If you’re starting from nothing, dip your toes into the dirty-talk pool with some simple moans and groans. Give a sigh or have a catch in your breath. Becoming vocal during the act will make you more comfortable when it comes time to say it with words.

If you’re feeling shy or not sure what to say, just stick to basic phrases. Simple can be sexy.

“Mmmm”

“I love it when you _____ my _____.”

“That feels so good.”

Everyone loves compliments, and these simple phrases sound super erotic when said into your partner’s ear. Just giving a verbal play-by-play of what is happening can heighten the experience. As your confidence builds, you can start to incorporate more detailed phrases. Contrary to its name, dirty talk doesn’t have to be explicit or obscene. You can absolutely play around with it and build a fantasy story, praise and stroke your partner’s ego, give orders, or simply tell a partner what you’re about to do to them.

“What if we were having sex in front of others right now?”

“You’re the best I’ve ever had.”

“Touch yourself for me.”

“I’m going to fuck that pretty face, you dirty girl.”

But don’t forget that what goes on during erotic talk does not necessarily translate into real life. For example, your partner might like it when you call them a whore during sexting or in the bedroom, but they may not like being called a whore in public. Talking dirty is done for mutual enjoyment and should never be used maliciously against your partner.

I know dirty talk can seem daunting, especially if you’ve never done it before, but the best way to conquer that fear is to just try it! Start off simply and build from there. Don’t worry if you misspeak, just laugh it off and keep going. You may have heard the phrase ‘give her the D,’ but consider giving her the B (brain). Our mind is our largest sexual organ, so why not try stroking that for a change?

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Want to Become More Attractive to Women? Be Taken.

Written on 22nd February 2018   By   in sex advice

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You always want what you can’t have. That’s the saying, right? Well, a new study suggests this sentiment is especially true for female attraction. According to a paper published in Scientific Reports, men receive an “attractiveness boost” from women when they’re in a committed relationship, a quality shared with abstract art (as in, you don’t know it’s attractive until someone else tells you).

This concept is called “mate-choice copying.” If a potential partner is chosen by someone else, they appear to be of higher quality than men who remain unplucked. According to reports, this is common conduct, as the same idea has been observed in species of birds and fish.

The researchers claim the reassurance comes in handy for females trying to ensure they’ve chosen the best partner for reproduction. For the study, the research team collected attractiveness ratings of pictures of abstract art, men and men’s hands from heterosexual women in the survey. The kicker: They were also given information about how the other participants had voted. The study was then repeated with the inclusion of lesbians and bisexual women and the results stayed the same, highlighting the fact that all women behave in the same way, regardless of who they are attracted to.

“Women in our study found men’s faces more attractive if other women had given that face high ratings. But the same goes for pictures of abstract artworks,” lead author Dr. Kate Cross said of her research. “Women appear to copy the mate preferences of other women, but this might simply be because humans have a general tendency to be influenced by the opinions of others.”

All boiled down, female attraction toward committed men is largely due to the preconceived idea that taken men have their shit together.

Aside from pointing out that women are socially influenced by other women in regard to men’s attractiveness, no few other insights are shared. So Playboy spoke to Deanna Cobden, dating and relationship coach, who helped further explain the allure of taken men.

“Men in relationships tend to be a little bit more put together and polished, mentally, emotionally and physically and often display the qualities of drive, purpose, ambition, security and stability that women find attractive,” she begins. “That is very often because these types of men have already achieved their own specific career and life goals by the time they’re ready to commit to a relationship. Once they are in that relationship they are ‘all in’ and ready to focus on family and building a life together.”

Now as for whether this plays into the whole “all the good ones are taken” vernacular, Cobden’s not so sure. “It’s a matter of perception, you never really know what’s going on with people,” she admits. “We tend to idealize others’ relationships, but many times the couples you think are perfect end up breaking up, and it wasn’t so rosy after all. Instead of believing the grass is greener on the other side, I believe the grass is greener when you water it.”

After reading of the results of this study, I was reminded of The Bachelor. You know, the wildly successful dating reality show wherein one man finds a woman he loves, and all of the other women automatically love him too because he’s the elected hottie. I mention this to Cobden and started to wonder if our taste in others is more learned than it is biological. She insists it’s a combination of the two, attesting there is always an initial attraction or not. “However, this doesn’t mean instant chemistry, the super-hot kind, is a good idea, because it usually doesn’t end with a perfect lifelong romance.” That’s mainly because you end up starting with the physical, then realize a year or two later that there isn’t enough compatibility for a lifelong partnership with shared qualities and values.”

You can become more attracted to a person physically, mentally and emotionally the more you get to know them. “This is especially true for women, we can fall in love with our brain and start to feel an emotional connection, then become physically attracted. Men tend to fall in love the opposite.”

As for the ladies on The Bachelor, Cobden thinks the spectacle of the situation can be blinding, going after a man but not necessarily being real about who they are or who he is and if the relationship would really be a good one for marriage. “Also,” she adds. They tend to be quite young and on the immature side.” A lot nicer than I would have put it, but sure.

All boiled down, female attraction toward committed men is largely due to the preconceived idea that taken men have their shit together. But, as Cobden mentions, we romanticize people’s relationships. The taken man might be a dipshit, too.

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Mature Sex Meet in Scotland.

Written on 6th November 2017   By   in Scotland Sex Dates

NSA-SEXCONTACTS is one of the best adult online dating sites in the UK, with thousands of adults from Scotland enjoying no-strings naughty dating.

Start adult dating with  NSA-SEXCONTACTS and meet other singles in Scotland and across the UK for naughty dating. If you’re looking for adults in Scotland, who are also looking for sex dating, this is the site for you.

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Carve Out Your Hook-Up Horrors With These Tasty Tricks and Treats

Written on 26th October 2017   By   in Halloween

 

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As it is coming up to the fright fest that is Halloween, we are all about turn offs this month, the very things that send erections and arousal running off into the darkness. As part of this, we wanted to give you a Thing-like hand in uncovering some of the beasties that could be plaguing your profile and actually stopping you from getting the boning sessions you desire. Let’s lay them to rest for good and get back to the kind of orgasmic screaming you actually want to hear in the night. Wooooooo!

Hey Boo-tiful!

When it comes to getting in touch with people, so many people make the mistakes of writing overly crude messages, not enough text (A simple ‘hey’ tends to have a negative impact), or going overboard with the sex smileys. This may be an adult network, but from the feedback we get, it can turn quite a lot of people off. Use your instincts when it comes to approaching someone, Some members like a good flirt, some want to jump into cybersex immediately, and some prefer a more formal introduction. Make sure you read their profile description to get a vibe of the tone of language this person uses. This will give you a good indication of the type and tone of the message to send. Use this to your advantage.

If You’ve Got It – Haunt It!

You are on the site looking for sex. We know!!! Remember, people are on the site for similar reasons. If your objective is sex, then your profile description is your chance to tell members why they should especially want to have sex with you versus everyone else.

Try and expand your description and maybe include some hobbies and interests etc. This could be as dirty as you want. You can potentially talk about anything, from your favourite music, to your favourite sex positions, to your adoration of erotic nipple play, it’s completely up to you. As much info as possible is the key as a lot of people are quite shy about messaging others, so if they see some common ground and something mutual between you then they may find it a bit easier to initiate conversation.

Adult fun is what most members want but they don’t want to do just “do it” with anyone. Make them give you a second and third look by introducing yourself in a manner that makes them feel like they know you a bit more. Make sure you include what sort of connections you are looking to make, can you accommodate, are you willing to travel, are you looking for long term, one off meets etc. Give them something to talk about and not just the size of your junk. If they are lucky, they will find that out for themselves hey. 😉

More Than Resting Witch Face!

Be brave and add a profile picture. Profiles with a main photo tend to receive much more attention than those with an avatar. We understand that some people are wary of uploading a facial profile pic but even a body shot so that your faces are concealed will attract more attention to your profile than an avatar, without giving away your identity.

Take the time to think about your pictures and what they say about you. Remember, the first time someone most likely sees your photo is as a small round image in the search results. For this reason you need to make it as eye catching as possible. If you have photo that makes it very difficult to see any details especially when viewing it on a mobile device, you are going to have a tough time standing out from the rest. Also, change up your picture regularly so you don’t become just another face in the crowd.

Are They Really Your Blood Type?

There are a variety of ways to show who you are and what you are looking for. Select your interests on your profile so members can find common ground, create a blog, this can be anything about you such as your fantasies, dreams, ambitions or even events that have happened in your day to day life. Make these blog entries a few hundred characters long at a time and make them as funny, emotive interesting etc as you can.

Lifting Your Spirits!

Are you admin validated? To be site admin verified, please upload a photo to your profile or attach it to a ticket of your full face, holding a piece of paper with today’s date and your username written on it. This will give your profile a real BOOst.

Creeping It Real!

We do check all profiles by hand but unfortunately, as with all sites of this nature, some will inevitably slip through the net. Like all online communities, there are people who have other motives, so here are some handy hints to weed out fakes and spot the suspicious:

Never send money to someone you meet online. Report anyone who asks for money or any interaction that seems unusual. Our Customer Service team are here to help you 7 days a week.

Many members have asked us about Dating IDs. You DO NOT need an ID card to join or use the site and any emails or messages regarding these are not associated with us in any way whatsoever. Please report anything like this on the site to a member of staff.

Avoid following any links to other websites as these may be insecure. If anyone asks you to verify yourself on another site, be wary. Anyone wanting admin validation can contact a member of our admin team and they will help you.

By using the site’s communication tools, we have your back. Once you start communicating outside of the site, our protective measures are extremely limited. Only go off site when you are 100% comfortable.

Putting Some Serious ‘BOO’ in Booty!

Get involved in the chat rooms, write on the blogs and forums, like and comment on other members’ photos, videos and content. With a little time and effort, you will find that more people will communicate with you, send replies etc as they have seen you around on the site and know you are a genuinely looking for a ‘fangtastic’ and sexy time.

So there you have it guys and ghouls. What turns you off when checking out profiles and what are your pet peeves when people contact you on the site? On the other hand, what gets your motors running? Got any more tips for members? Share all in the comments.

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