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5 Mind-Blowing Sex Tips for Men.

Written on 7th April 2017   By   in sex advice

 

Not all sex is created equal. There are those nights of sweet relief after six minutes of rolling around before returning to your Amazon Prime, and that’s fine. We won’t disparage what may seem like routine lovemaking, because at least you’re still doing it. Sometimes a basic quickie is the perfect thing – like in the morning, when her hair’s a mess and your breath is stank, but you just go at it doggie style before work or the farmer’s market. And that’s nice, too.

But then there are those other times …

The times when the sex is so good, you can’t believe it. You feel certain you must be some sort of sex god. You know, those times when you’re feeling yourself, you’re laying it down like a champion, and she’s moaning sounds that come from deep within her body, and it’s the oh-my-god-yes sex, “I’ll have what she’s having” mind-blowing session that we all dream about.

But those times can be rare. So rare, in fact, they feel like some sort of natural phenomenon that comes on like an eclipse or a thunderstorm. If only there were ways you, the sex god, could make these epic encounters happen whenever you and your partner are ready to throw down.

Well, you are in luck. We have five amazing ways to help you have better sex. Try these tips a la carte, introducing them one at a time – or get into all of them ASAP. It’s up to you, and it’s all in the name of sexual self-improvement.

Masturbate

Yeah dude, we know you rub one out on the regular, but like a Zen guru or Jedi Master, you must practice your craft with intention. Think of masturbation as a practice round and not just a means to an end when you’re in the shower. By initiating a more exploratory experience of self-love, you can start to learn not just what makes you climax, but also focus on ways to slow yourself down. In addition, this slower, more sensual style will help you get in touch with your own body, which is beyond sexy. Elevate these “training” sessions even more by adding in male sex toys into the mix. Enjoy yourself and your body, practice what speeds you up and slows you down, and lastly, masturbate simply to prolong your lovemaking with your partner. Oh, and duh – jerking off is fun!

Go Deep

Different positions will feel better for different individuals, but an overwhelming majority of men will admit that they like to get deep inside their partner. The thing is though- that’s not always what’s most comfortable for a woman. So how do you turn this conundrum into an opportunity for your best bone session ever? By finding out exactly how to go in deeper, harder, and longer, while making sure it feels amazing for your partner. To do this, you’re going to need some lube. So many factors determine what a woman’s natural lubrication level may be, but it’s not just arousal. A woman can be totally turned on and still reap the benefits of using lube, especially when the loving is long-lasting.

Foreplay All Day

There is nothing sexier than a lover who makes their partner feel desired and appreciated. And as they say, “like attracts like.” So if you start showing your beloved how much they turn you on, then you can expect they will find ways to do the same. Amp up your flirty banter by gently teasing your partner, send a dirty text in the middle of the day letting them know exactly where on their body you want to lick and suck. Send a GIF showing what you’d like her to do with you. Play grab ass at the movies; bring home a little present; french kiss on the stairwell; the list goes on and on. Foreplay doesn’t need to be regulated to an obligatory 10 minutes of over the jeans groping and a bit of oral, it can literally become an undercurrent of sexual tension in your daily life that will continue to make your sex life better and better for years to come.

Get that P Spot

Yes, it’s time to talk about your prostate, and it’s going to be awesome! Here’s the thing: we know there’s still a stigma around men and butt play, but this is changing rapidly, and the reason for that is that prostate stimulation provides more than just a hearty dose of pleasure. When you get a little loving on the prostate, you can receive tremendous health benefits – such as a reduced risk of prostate cancer. Not only that, but while a prostate stimulator is inserted, many men experience harder erections, more intense orgasms, and increased stamina.

When trying any new toy, it can be a good idea to try it alone first. However, the rules for P-play are the same for solo use or with a partner. Use a lubricated finger (seriously, use lube) to start things off, circling the anus and then pressing gently against the sphincter (like ringing a door bell). The key is to go slowly and notice your body’s response. When you’re ready, slide the toy in, and continue on with your favorite sexual activities until climax.

Try Cross Fit

Really, it can be any favorite exercise, but it’s crucial to get out there and enjoy your body and your life. Building strength and stamina will segue to the workouts you get in the bedroom, but most importantly, the confidence you build by taking care of yourself will translate to everything and everyone you do! Most women love their men whether they have six-pack abs or not, but everyone is drawn to someone who feels happy with their own physicality. The same principle applies to eating well and personal grooming. Remember, you are the sex god, and it’s important you value yourself and your body just as you love your partner. So take a vigorous class or a walk around the block, let your mind wander to your favorite sexual fantasies and see yourself sharing them with your lover. Then drink some electrolyte water, power down some protein, and get your bad-ass sexy self ready to have better sex tonight!

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Going for Gold – 5 Ways to Dirty Talk Your Lover to the Finish Line.

Written on 23rd March 2017   By   in sex advice

When getting sexy, we’re all about taking the seduction and anticipation up a few notches, and talking dirty can be a route to whole new level of excitement.

It’s an area of sex that makes a lot of people feel silly because they’re unsure of how to go about it without feeling ridiculous.

“Talk dirty to me baby…” can get some folks freezing like a soaking wet roll of toilet paper being thrown out of an igloo in Antartica. For others, it it is like the sound of a starting pistol. “Go baby, Go!”

Dirty talk can get both of you hotter than ever, but it can also lead to confusion, missed signals, and awkwardness— meaning we have to tread carefully. When it comes to horny jibber jabber, you’re really addressing one thing: how much can you get away with?

What should you say? What do they want you to say? What if you say too much? What if you say too little? Most people err on the side of caution, possibly leading to boring, platonic, sanitised conversations destined never to lead to an elevated heart rate — let alone an orgasm. On the other hand, some people are so brazen, they turn off the majority of people they’re trying to turn on. The secret is to push the boundaries of what you can get away with without crossing them…well…by too much anyway, hehehe!

The foundation for horny and fun dirty talk is the same as other components of a healthy sex —good communication with your partner and being up front about what you like.
Now go for Gold with these five tips.

Training

Talking about Dirty Sanchezing her bearded clam, or using red flag words is a bit of a no-no. Word choice matters. Don’t be unnecessarily clinical or explicit; nothing is going to make a girl drier (or a guy softer) than talking about volumetric blood flow to the genital region. Do be descriptive. Details make stories come to life, and essentially, mucky chatter is all about details

On Your Marks

Learn some new horny words —erotic fiction is a pretty good place to find new words to add to sexy times; porn videos tend to be a bit short on good or realistic dialogue.

Get Set

Like with anything, when and how you do it matters. Do be humorous, but strike a balance. If you’re too serious, it’s creepy. If you’re too funny, you’re a clown. Don’t incorporate dirty talk too early—such as someone who hasn’t given you signs that he or she is open to it. Subtlety, word play and cleverness go a long way. But don’t force it. You should talk dirty because you’re in the mood and feeling it—not because someone told you to do it. There has to be some passion behind it. Read the signs, be aware of the other person’s response to your dirty talk. If the person you’re with gives you a red light, respect it.

Go, Go, Go!

Talk about how she tastes, how she’s the perfect dirty girl—be specific. Don’t freak out if your partner tries dirty talk without the pre-conversation and you don’t like it—just talk about it, regroup and get it on.

Across the Finish Line

If you are in the heat of passion and land upon a phrase that turns them on, simply repeating it can give it a great sexual intensity. Even something as simple as “Don’t stop! Don’t stop! Don’t stop!” can make your lover go the extra mile.
Now get those tongues wagging people…in other ways too! 😉

Do you enjoy dirty talk? What is your favourite wankworthy whisper? Share with us in the comments.

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Does Having More Sex at Home Make You Happier at Work?

Written on 10th March 2017   By   in sex advice

If you think of your work life and your home life as separate worlds, check this out. A new study from Oregon State University says people with healthy, active sex lives tend to be happier at their jobs. Having more sex also increases people’s productivity. If you’re not content with how your career is going, try getting it on more—and no, it’s not about sleeping your way to the top.

The study, published in the Journal of Management, followed 159 married people over two weeks, and had them complete two short surveys a day. After having sex, the study participants reported more positive moods. For at least 24 hours, they felt more engaged at work, and had more job satisfaction. Keith Leavitt, one of the study’s authors, credits this to effects sex has on the brain, such as the release of dopamine and oxytocin, natural mood enhancers.

Leavitt said in a statement, “We make jokes about people having a ‘spring in their step,’ but it turns out this is actually a real thing and we should pay attention to it. Maintaining a healthy relationship that includes a healthy sex life will help employees stay happy and engaged in their work, which benefits the employees and the organizations they work for.”

Need a reason to stop checking your work email 24/7? Researchers also found that bringing work-related stress home was bad for people’s sex lives. According to Leavitt, “Technology offers a temptation to stay plugged in, but it’s probably better to unplug if you can. And employers should encourage their employees to completely disengage from work after hours.” If your boss asks why you’re not answering those late-night emails, do the right thing, and share a link to this article. After all, even bosses deserve good sex lives.

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